The charm psychopaths exhibit is all part of an elaborate act. They are experts at imitation and impression management. They spend their entire lives watching people, mimicking and mirroring them, and then they use that knowledge to exploit others in order to get what they want.
One thing is certain...they do NOT feel bad about anything! They do not feel guilt or remorse, because they DO NOT CARE. And they come back around and hoover targets back in because they want to use others and have power over them.
Everything is a game, and they need to win. So the hoovering is about control. They view their targets as objects, as toys that they are not done with yet. It's highly entertaining for them to pick up a "toy," play with it, and throw it down, over and over and over again, until the toy is destroyed.
These people are obsessed with winning. They invent games and trick others into participating, without ever explaining the rules. In fact, their targets are never even aware that they're playing a game to begin with.
Psychopath/Narcissists exploit vulnerabilities and dreams in order to fool others, and then gleefully declare victory when their target is left broken & devastated. By manufacturing and controlling every aspect of the game, they assure themselves that they are always "winning", but in reality, these games are merely a distraction from their life-consuming jealousy and boredom.
Without souls of their own, they feel compelled to destroy the souls of other people. This gives them a temporary sense of superiority, oblivious to the fact that truly happy individuals do not need to harm others in order to feel good about themselves. Psychopaths will always get what they want from the game, because they've orchestrated it from beginning to end. But just because a person gets what they want certainly does not make them a winner.
To draw you closer, the psychopath creates an aura of desirability—of being wanted and courted by many. It will become a point of vanity for you to be the preferred object of their attention, to win them away from a crowd of admirers.
They manufacture the illusion of popularity by surrounding themselves with members of the opposite sex: friends, former lovers, and your eventual replacement. (Apaths)
Then, they create triangles that stimulate rivalry and raise their perceived value.
So how do psychopaths maintain such a powerful bond over their targets? One of their favorite methods is through triangulation. Survivors usually equate it with the next target, but that is not always the case. Psychopaths use triangulation on a regular basis to seem in “high-demand”, and to keep you obsessed with them at all times. This can occur with anyone:
1. Your family
2. Their family
3. Your friends
4. Their friends
5. Ex-partners
6. Partners-to-be
7. Complete strangers
Social Media.
Technology makes it so much easier for psychopaths to manipulate through triangulation. It can be as simple as liking a comment from an old ex, while ignoring one from the current prey. They will “accidentally” upload a photo album where they’re embracing the ex they once claimed to hate.
Everything appears to be unintentional—you often attribute it to insensitivity—but make no mistake: it is carefully calculated.
They will post strategically ambiguous statuses, songs, and videos that suggest you might be “losing” them. They will share things that are intentionally meant to lure in new & old targets. For example, an inside joke with their new victim.
Or the love song that they once shared with their ex. This does two things: it leaves you feeling unhinged, anxious, and jealous. But it also makes the competing party feel confident, loved, and special. They are grooming others as they erode your identity—50 birds with one stone.... READ MORE HERE
Psychopaths are obsessed with winning. They invent games and trick
others into participating, without ever explaining the rules. In fact,
their targets are never even aware that they're playing a game to begin
with. Psychopaths exploit vulnerabilities and dreams in order to fool
others, and then gleefully declare victory when their target is left
broken & devastated.
By manufacturing and
controlling every aspect of the game, they assure themselves that they
are always "winning", but in reality, these games are merely a
distraction from their life-consuming jealousy and boredom.
Without souls of their own, they feel compelled to destroy the souls of other people.
This
gives them a temporary sense of superiority, oblivious to the fact that
truly happy individuals do not need to harm others in order to feel
good about themselves. Psychopaths will always get what they want from
the game, because they've orchestrated it from beginning to end. But
just because a person gets what they want certainly does not make them a
winner.
1. Chronic Addictions
Not all addicts are sociopaths, but a majority of sociopaths are addicts. In fact, studies estimate that up to 70% of sociopaths struggle with drug and/or alcohol addictions, the theory being that they use these substances to overcome the boredom they feel from living without any emotional life (and the highs and lows that inevitably come with it).
2. Constantly Evoking your Pity (the victim mentality)
Sociopaths are masters at evading responsibility. They are often also incredible actors (you would be too if you had to fake every “emotion” you felt your whole life). As a result, they are going to be able to work your pity button at every turn. This is a great tactic that they use to cover up their inconsistent stories (#3), explain their lack of friends and social connections (#4), and milk you for all you’re worth. They’ll appeal to your sympathy with stories of their abusive childhood or financial problems that “aren’t their fault.” Why? Because they like control, and they like to get stuff, and let’s get real- they really don’t care about you. They just aren’t capable of it.
3. Lies & Gaps in Their Stories
Inauthentic people that lead parasitic lifestyles are bound to have gaps and inconsistencies in their life narrative. They aren’t going to tell you that they lived with their ex-girlfriend for three years, not paying rent and being emotionally abusive and then left when she started demanding that they contribute – are they?
4. Lack of Friends and Social Connections
It’s hard to maintain long term relationships without emotional connections. In fact, it’s relatively impossible – especially when you have a tendency to manipulate, dominate, and control with a lifetime of self-serving behaviors. Warning, though: They’ll use the pity card to explain why they have so few people that care about them and so few emotional ties, it won’t ever be “their fault.” Don’t say I didn’t warn you.
The Perfect Juggler....
has relationships constantly
coming in and going out
5. Witnessing the Mask Slipping
If the sociopath feels that he does not have total control over you, you will witness very quickly, the narcissist rage occur. You will see that the kind, helpful, caring, thoughtful person (that you had been trained to think he was) will vanish, and in his place, will be a man who is angry, who becomes desperate for control.He will do and say anything to re-establish control over you and your life. His reaction will be very intense. This is the REAL character. This is the real person, without their mask..
