Sometimes one might hear that only boring people get bored. This is not true at all. Sometimes we reach the end of a cycle where things that used to inspire or excite us don't anymore. Maybe we are experiencing a lull. Usually when we are bored we really want to feel alive and engaged. Sometimes the clear path to that isn't so obvious.
The Four of Cups can indicate that you have been feeling disillusioned or are wishing your life away wondering what if.
You might need to let go of the regrets from your life and focus on the good things that are happening currently around you. A great way to do this is to think of one or two things that you are grateful for in each day, it will help you to focus on the present and on the positive.
As the breakdown of a relationship involves a lot of different factors and events, it can be difficult trying to figure out whether things are really over or you are just going through a bad spell that needs to be worked on.
The only way you can really tell whether it’s time to let go or whether it’s worth fighting for is by asking yourself some very serious questions and looking at the most brutally honest answers.
When Arguments Occur, Are They Sorted Out Afterwards?
You will find that even the happiest couples have disagreements and even full-blown arguments from time to time. Ask yourself:
- How frequent are your arguments?
- How serious are they?
- What happens when you’ve finished arguing?
- Do you both move on from them easily?
Have You Got Past The Things That Went Wrong In The Past?
Following on from the above, you need to thoroughly assess what went wrong in your relationship. If a solid foundation was in place, have you worked through the issues? Do both you and your significant other agree on what the issues were?
You both need to be on the same page and agree on what went wrong to stand any chance of solving them and moving on in a healthy relationship.
Often relationships are put to the test by things neither half of a couple can really control, such as living far away from one another or work-related problems.
If you discover that there are things preventing your relationship moving forward that can be eliminated, do it.
Was The Relationship Fulfilling On A Daily Basis?
You need to think about whether or not your partner fulfilled your needs from one day to the next. Were they constantly looking to make you happy and looking after your emotional needs?
Were all the foundations in place to begin with for a healthy and positive relationship, including Commitment, Empathy, Willingness to resolve conflict and communicate, respect, trust and love? If they weren’t there ever, why would you go back to that?
Do You Really Know What Makes You Satisfied And Happy?
This is a vital question to ask yourself honestly, because if you don’t know what makes you happy, you can’t expect others to do it.
Relationships require an understanding on both sides. How can you really be sure if a relationship is right if you don’t know what your own specific needs are?
What Do You Imagine Life Is Like Without Your Other Half?
Think about how life might feel without your partner and be totally honest. Do you feel optimistic and happy when thinking of future memories you might both create together as a couple? Or does the thought of doing things on your own or without your partner make you happier?
If leaving your partner does not feel you with dread and sadness, this might be a sign that it's time to move on.
Ultimately, this post can’t take into account every relationship circumstance or individual scenario. You’ll need to weigh everything up and decide what’s best for yourself to move forward.
You’ve Decided To File A Divorce - What Now?
After careful consideration, you’ve decided you want a split. It is not easy coming to the decision that things have gotten so bad between you and your spouse that it’s time for a divorce.
Once you utter those four words “I want a divorce” it’s like drawing a line in the sand between you.
However hard it is coming to terms with the fact that you have decided on filing for a divorce, that may pale in comparison to how it feels to have to say it to your partner.
How can you do it? Here are our top tips for telling your partner it’s over:
You need to get prepared as to what you will say and also emotionally for the fallout. Telling your partner you want a divorce is going to elicit a response...a reaction, so prepare yourself for that. We all respond to bad and sad news differently.
It’s likely that the more shocking they find the news you want a divorce, the more volatile they are likely to be. It may be even if you have had arguments a lot, they still find it shocking it's coming to divorce.
Choose The Right Moment
Although you may not want to rest on these feelings, you do need to take a tactful approach to choosing the moment you break the news. It’s best not to do it when you are arguing.
It’s also best to avoid doing it with an audience, whether it’s children, out in public or just before you go out together. You should also avoid doing it via text or over the phone.
Keep It Brief
There is the temptation that once you have come to the decision to divorce that everything needs to be sorted immediately.
Avoid doing that, though. The first time you bring the subject to your partner’s attention should be short and to the point.
Be as direct and concise as you possibly can be. It may be that you need to say it a few times for it to sink in.
Leave any mention of the future or the next steps for now. Make it clear that you don’t want to discuss the ins and outs right now, but that you want to figure them out in due time so that everything can end as amicably as possible, taking everyone’s needs and feelings into consideration.
Give Your Partner Space And Time
It is only natural that your partner will need some space and time to let the news really take hold in their mind.
When you give them that space and time to really process what you’ve told them, it will normally result in a more positive and healthy process moving forward.
Even if they try to broach certain areas of your shared life or the kids, house and other things, repeat that you are happy to discuss it all, but not right now.
There is nothing wrong with planning exactly what you want to say or even rehearsing it like it was a script.
As this is the first step in a very hard and emotionally painful process, getting the conversation right where you make it clear you want a divorce can be crucial for making the whole procedure as easy as possible for everyone.
Christmas trees originally begin as a pagan tradition as early as the fourth century C.E., according to ABC News. Europeans of the old religion were largely responsible for dressing their homes with the branches of evergreen fir trees in order to bring color and light into their dull winters.
Germany is credited with starting the Christmas tree tradition as we now know it in the 16th century when devout Christians brought decorated trees into their homes. ... It is a widely held belief that Martin Luther, the 16th-century Protestant reformer, first added lighted candles to a tree.
The history of Christmas trees goes back to the symbolic use of evergreens in ancient Egypt and Rome and continued with the German tradition of candlelit Christmas trees first brought to America in the 1800s.
Discover the history of the Christmas tree, from the earliest winter solstice celebrations to Queen Victoria’s decorating habits and the annual lighting of the Rockefeller Center tree in New York City.
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Getting the strength card means that you are a very patient individual who is likely to accomplish anything that they put their mind to. Your resilience will greatly aid you, and your fearlessness means that you should have no issues speaking your mind. This card also indicates this kind of compassion will always be rewarded with having a lot of stability in your life either presently on in the near future.
Perhaps there is something you wish to say but are not saying it. intuitively you may know it is not the right time to speak these words so you hold them to yourself.
If this is the case then know that when you do speak your mind the words will come out in an empowering way which will give you further strength to do what you need to do next.
What to buy for a nighttime blogger? A rainbow backlit keyboard and mouse! My top gift I have received for Christmas! It is amazing and fun for the gamers out there but it is also great to be able to type in a dark room, which I do all the time. Used to have to turn on a lamp or a glaring over head room light. Now I just tap the keyboard and it comes to life!
The keyboard stays lit while you are using it and turns itself off after a few minutes of idle. That is a good feature as it is bright! Brightness modes you can choose: bright, sort of bright, and not so bright using the keyboard shortcut Escape/Function
The set is wired and very affordable!
Pictek Gaming Keyboard and Mouse Combo, Wired LED RGB Backlit with Multimedia Keys Wrist Rest, 25 Keys Anti-Ghosting, 8 Efficient Multimedia Keys, Ergonomic Gaming Mouse with 4-Color Backlight for PC
The waterless Amaryllis is starting to rival the poinsettia as a floral choice for the holiday season. We received 2 Red Lion Amaryllis plants last night! They are beautiful bulb plant that produces large, colorful bell-shaped flowers and thrives indoors. No watering! I had seen them before but not often. I thought they were like the Christmas cactus. They are more like tulips actually. I spent this morning studying these gorgeous red flowers.
Most people treat their amaryllis bulbs as "one-and-done" flowers. In truth, they just get better with time. The bulbs get bigger, producing more flower stems. Here are some steps for taking care of your amaryllis year-round.
Waxed Amaryllis bulbs are an innovation from Holland. They have been trendy in Europe for a few years. Now they are increasingly showing up in US stores and catalogs.
Why coat amaryllis bulbs with wax? Because it renders them easy to grow—no water or soil; they could not be more trouble-free. All the nutrients necessary to grow the bloom are already packed in the big round bulb. Possibly the colored wax also makes the plant more beautiful. The coating on the bulb looks jewel-like.
Amaryllis species are tropical and subtropical. Consequently, the Dutch who produce 93% of the world’s bulbs grow their amaryllis in Brazil where conditions are perfect for the plants.
Amaryllis is the only genus in the subtribe Amaryllidinae. It is a small genus of flowering bulbs, with two species. The better known of the two, Amaryllis belladonna, is a native of the Western Cape region of South Africa, particularly the rocky southwest area between the Olifants River Valley and Knysna.
I rented Linda Ronstadt : The Sound of My Voice this am and it is fabulous..it is sad that Linda has Parkinson's disease and no longer can sing, but...the amount of music she has created will live on forever. I don't think she knows that she is LEGEND.... I love Linda!!
A musical biography of one of the most successful female singers - and one of the most successful recording artists - of all time. Featuring Dolly Parton, Bonnie Raitt, Jackson Browne, and more.
The movie is up for rent on Amazon or if you are more patient than me, it will be broadcast on CNN New Year's Day 2020. ☆☆☆☆☆
The "Iceman" Richard Kuklinski, a suspect in several murders, is arrested by undercover agents at a truck stop off the New Jersey Turnpike, marking the culmination of the Bureau of Alcohol, Tobacco, and Firearms’ “Operation Iceman.” Kuklinski had sealed his fate when he showed operative Dominick Polifrone how to poison a person with cyanide.
The first murder authorities were able to link Kuklinski to was that of George Mallibrand, whom he shot over a debt in 1980. He then stuffed Mallibrand’s body into a 55-gallon drum in Jersey City. In July 1981, Kuklinski’s partner, Louis Masgay, mysteriously disappeared on the eve of an illegal business transaction, but there was no evidence linking Kuklinski to the incident.
When his body turned up in September 1983, authorities determined that Masgay had been shot in the head and kept frozen since the day of the disappearance; his body was then dumped two years later.
In 1982, Kuklinski joined Dan Deppner and Gary Smith in a scam to steal cars. But because he apparently believed Deppner and Smith to be inept crooks, Kuklinski decided to kill them in order to protect himself. In a northern New Jersey hotel, Kuklinski poisoned Smith’s hamburger and then stuffed the dead body under the bed. Despite the fact that other guests had rented the room in the meantime, Smith was not discovered for four days.
In May 1983, a plastic bag containing Dan Deppner’s body was discovered near a tree in northern New Jersey. Because he was believed to have died from cyanide poisoning, police were convinced that Kuklinski was behind the series of murders, and they decided to institute a sting operation. Kuklinski was later taped discussing cyanide’s efficacy as a murder weapon, saying “It’s quiet, it’s not messy, it’s not noisy… You can spray it in someone’s face and they go to sleep.”
At his trial in 1987, Kuklinski argued that Smith and Deppner had not been killed with poison. Indeed, it is difficult to prove murder by cyanide since the poison leaves few traces behind. Nonetheless, the prosecution managed to prove Kuklinski’s guilt beyond a reasonable doubt, and he was sentenced to life imprisonment. He later confessed to killing Louis Masgay. Kuklinski died in 2006.
If you find yourself worrying about stuff, or you're being at all negative about how things may turn out, STOP right now and SWITCH your focus.
Happiness is a state of mind! It sounds cliché, but it's true. If you want to feel happier and more positive then you must focus on something that makes you feel happy and positive. Come on, there's always SOMETHING to be happy about!
Approach your life in this way and your whole demeanor will change. You'll begin to attract good news, happy circumstances and more positive people.
This is my new favorite book! Cleve is a fun /snarky guy to hang out with for the Holidays. I wish I could have followed him around back in the day..
By his own admission, Cleve Hattersley stumbled through a life of adjacent stardom. Best known as the leader of Greezy Wheels, the house band of the Armadillo World Headquarters, the Austinite's memoir offers a long, strange trip across America's countercultures, like a Beat Forrest Gump. Serendipities range from sublime (Jimi Hendrix auditioning at the Night Owl in NYC) to surreal (living across the street from the Manson family in the Haight), with the author marveling at his dumb luck most of all. And yet, it's Hattersley the hustler who positioned himself in Greenwich Village in the early Sixties, at the Fillmore on the West Coast later in the decade, in Austin's progressive Seventies, and in running the Lone Star Cafe back in NYC through the cocaine-fueled, cameoed Eighties.
The songwriter's narration is as erratic as an after-hours, smoked-out jam session, jumping from his prison stint for smuggling pot to running Kinky Friedman's political campaigns with an anachronistic nonchalance, but his informal and gossip-spilling telling never fails to entertain. Beyond the anecdotes, Hattersley's life seems to be a testament to saying yes but keeping your shit together enough to get out alive and, maybe more importantly, maintain a helluva a story to tell.
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Meeting James Brown was one of the highlights of his career. Booking the hardest-working man in show business was a major coup, something he dared not believe possible. Brown’s career had sagged a bit, and he needed to make some noise in New York City. “He was one of those guys who wasn’t just the center of the room when he walked in; he was The Room,” says Hattersley.
Hattersley’s greatest childhood hero was Mickey Mantle. Besides having been born on his birthday, he played for his favorite team, the New York Yankees. When he finally met Mantle at the Lone Star Cafe, he had nothing for him to autograph. As Mantle and Billy Martin wobbled into the revolving door (and Mantle had to rotate through the door twice, before finding his way in), Hattersley could tell it might be best to take them upstairs to the closed-off area.
With these and many other tales from years gone by, LIFE IS A BUTT DIAL will fill mature readers with a sense of nostalgia for the freewheeling ‘60s and ‘70s and give younger readers a connection (education!) to those turbulent times.
About The Author
Cleve Hattersley is a member of the Austin Music Hall of Fame with his band Greezy Wheels, which recorded two albums on London Records and served as the house band of Armadillo World Headquarters in Austin, Texas. He managed the Lone Star Cafe and Blue Note Jazz Club in New York, and traveled the world with Kinky Friedman.