WORLD NARCISSISTIC ABUSE AWARENESS DAY IS JUNE 1

I'm really excited to announce that World Narcissistic Abuse Awareness Day is official. We've been added to the National Awareness Day Calendar, under the International Awareness Days section.

Now, we need your help to really thing-a-fy this thing. Throughout the month of May, or you can start right now, join the cause and use the hashtag #IfMyWoundsWereVisible on all social media.

On June 1st, we're going to use the hashtag on Twitter like we did last year, only this year, we hope to make an even bigger impact.

There are many other ways you can get involved and show your support. To learn how visit www.wnaad.com for more details, and for a sneak peek at the official If My Wounds Were Visible video.

You can also show your support by adding a Twibbon to your social media profile pictures: http://twibbon.com/support/narcissistic-abuse-awareness

Don't forget to friend WNAAD on Facebook for updates about this global, online event.

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RELIEF FROM NARCISSISTIC RELATIONSHIPS: SAM VAKNIN'S BOOKS AND VIDEOS

I just recently discovered Sam Vaknin's amazing videos on finding relief from Narcissistic Relationships. I viewed one video and became engrossed with the entire channel for the rest of the day. Sam has explanations that are bold and honest.

All of my life I struggled with narcissistic abuse and at last I finally know why...

I never knew the difference between a cerebral and a somatic narcissist...quite a difference...The Somatic is the plate spinning Casanova. The Cerebral, is asexual, snobby, and usually found in their own home as no one is worthy of their attention...Watch the brilliant video below...

Sam Vaknin has a ton of books and videos too.  Sam Vaknins books are here:

Abused? Stalked? Harassed? Victimized? Afraid? Confused? Need HELP? Sam Vaknin's you tube videos are life changing...here are 2 of my favorites...

The difference between the Somatic and Cerebral Narcissist

Narcissistic Abuse: A to Z Narcissism and Narcissistic Personality Disorder Encyclopedia: The Narcissism Bible

LINKS FOR SAM VAKNIN

Sam Vaknin Wikipedia

https://www.facebook.com/samvaknin

http://www.narcissistic-abuse.com

http://ceeandbalkan.tripod.com

http://philosophos.tripod.com

http://www.healthyplace.com/personality-...

http://gorgelink.org/vaknin/

TROLLS JUST WANT TO HAVE FUN... UPSETTING YOU!

 

Now Troll has taken on a much darker role...A “troll”, in internet slang, is someone who deliberately upsets others by starting arguments or posting unnecessarily inflammatory messages on blogs, chatrooms, or forums.

First off..it is so sensitive expressing yourself online. Other people cannot read your mood, cannot see your facial expressions and can't tell humor from sarcasm. Those of us who have ever worked in huge corporations run by massive email lists, have learned never to "flame" out at a coworker via email.  Inevitably it will come back to haunt you.

But since the invention of Facebook in 2004 a phenomenon occurred... millions of new computers users were born. Facebook made the computer fun for many who avoided the machine at all cost. Facebook taught computer language to the masses.. Words like Share, Upload, Download, became normal for even the senior users...

But with the massive migration came stress, pain and agony...I would think that Mark Zuckerberg didn't know how his invention would have a massive sinister impact along with the enlightenment.  Facebook is a stalker's dream tool. Following their target's life via photos, activities, and spying on their friends became very very easy... Blocked stalkers just make a new profile and resume their position....Frustrating indeed.

The internet "troll" is a know-it-all with a mean uppity personality.  The obvious chat topics aside such as religion, abortion, politics etc..

The trolls that really bother me are the ones who think they are so FUNNY...they cannot ignore a photo or a comment without inserting their not funny at all comments. I just hate these trolls the most... If you are so funny...stay on your own page and entertain YOUR friends...leave me and mine alone!  Of course they will not recognize themselves in this message..Sigh...

Recently I have read a lot of articles saying that these mean cowardly "trolls" who seem to think they are anonymous when they of course have an IP address tracking them, are sadistic and Machiavellian. I think they are Sociopathic Narcissists who finally have found a giant mirror to reflect their self perceived brilliance to the masses.. The only life they have is by draining the energy from the normal people online..to me they are empty shells..

The best thing you can do to protect yourself is have a ZERO tolerance policy.  If someone posts something mean and it hurts you..block them immediately. Don't give them another thought...if they attempt to contact you follow a "NO" contact plan.  If you want to starve a bug..cut off his food supply...

JORDAN BELFORT: THE WOLF OF WALLSTREET

Jordan Belfort Net Worth

The Wolf of Wallstreet Trailer

Based on the true story of Jordan Belfort, from his rise to a wealthy stockbroker living the high life to his massive fall involving crime, corruption and the federal government.

The story behind this Academy Award nominated film is so much bigger than any movie can begin to depict. The story of a young up and coming stock broker turned into a leviathan of power and control.

In the early 1990s, Belfort formed his trading company, Stratton Oakmont. His company took off right from the gate. Belfort surrounded himself with sycophantic friends and family members to insulate his "pump and dump" trading tactics from potential whistle blowers. This close-knit group of upper managers who were were willing to keep the firm's secrets.

The firm began as an upright venture, but with the goal to make as much money as possible, as quickly as possible, but then his tactics quickly took a nosedive.

 Christopher Moltisanti's Pump and Dump Team

The Sopranos writers did an episode in Season 2 inspired by Belfort's shenanigans... there was also another film called Boiler Room that was based on Belfort's criminal behavior.

Jordan is on the short side at 5'7 and always wore lifts in his shoes, sprayed windex on his food in the refridgerator so he wouldn't eat it and gain weight... really fits the definition Sociopathic/Narcissistic Personality disorder

THE GAME PLAYER ALWAYS LOSES

From Psychopathfree

These people are obsessed with winning. They invent games and trick others into participating, without ever explaining the rules. In fact, their targets are never even aware that they're playing a game to begin with.

Psychopath/Narcissists exploit vulnerabilities and dreams in order to fool others, and then gleefully declare victory when their target is left broken & devastated. By manufacturing and controlling every aspect of the game, they assure themselves that they are always "winning", but in reality, these games are merely a distraction from their life-consuming jealousy and boredom.

 
Without souls of their own, they feel compelled to destroy the souls of other people. This gives them a temporary sense of superiority, oblivious to the fact that truly happy individuals do not need to harm others in order to feel good about themselves. Psychopaths will always get what they want from the game, because they've orchestrated it from beginning to end. But just because a person gets what they want certainly does not make them a winner.

This book is life changing for the better....

THE TRIANGULATION GAME

From the book: Psychopath Free

To draw you closer, the psychopath creates an aura of desirability—of being wanted and courted by many. It will become a point of vanity for you to be the preferred object of their attention, to win them away from a crowd of admirers.

They manufacture the illusion of popularity by surrounding themselves with members of the opposite sex: friends, former lovers, and your eventual replacement. (Apaths)

Then, they create triangles that stimulate rivalry and raise their perceived value.

So how do psychopaths maintain such a powerful bond over their targets? One of their favorite methods is through triangulation. Survivors usually equate it with the next target, but that is not always the case. Psychopaths use triangulation on a regular basis to seem in “high-demand”, and to keep you obsessed with them at all times. This can occur with anyone:

1. Your family

2. Their family

3. Your friends

4. Their friends

5. Ex-partners

6. Partners-to-be

7. Complete strangers

Social Media.

Technology makes it so much easier for psychopaths to manipulate through triangulation. It can be as simple as liking a comment from an old ex, while ignoring one from the current prey. They will “accidentally” upload a photo album where they’re embracing the ex they once claimed to hate.

Everything appears to be unintentional—you often attribute it to insensitivity—but make no mistake: it is carefully calculated.

They will post strategically ambiguous statuses, songs, and videos that suggest you might be “losing” them. They will share things that are intentionally meant to lure in new & old targets. For example, an inside joke with their new victim.
 
Or the love song that they once shared with their ex. This does two things: it leaves you feeling unhinged, anxious, and jealous. But it also makes the competing party feel confident, loved, and special. They are grooming others as they erode your identity—50 birds with one stone.... READ MORE HERE

HOW TO AVOID ENGAGING WITH A TOXIC NARCISSIST ON FACEBOOK

 

How To Spot A Narcissist On Facebook
By Richard Zwolinski, LMHC, CASAC & C.R. Zwolinski

Facebook is an ever-ready source of narcissistic supply. The stuff narcissists must have. Kind of like us mere mortals must have food or oxygen.

While the rest of the narcissist’s world is sleeping, at work or having a life, FB is always there to keep him entertained. All he has to do is log on and try to suck up to anyone who possesses the talent and strength that they so sorely lack.

 Obviously, the rest of us want to steer clear of  toxic narcissistic people, at least when possible. In person, a savvy individual can usually suss out a narcissist after a few meetings. But FB relationships are by their nature, ripe with the potential for deception. (It’s not called Fakebook for no reason, you know.)

Best advice: If you use Facebook, only use it as a tool for professional reasons or to stay connected with family and truly close friends. If possible keep most or all of your personal information invisible to everyone, except people you know well. Read Full Story

The Therapy Soup FB Narcissist Red-Flag Spotter

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