From the book: Psychopath Free
To draw you closer, the psychopath creates an aura of desirability—of being wanted and courted by many. It will become a point of vanity for you to be the preferred object of their attention, to win them away from a crowd of admirers.
They manufacture the illusion of popularity by surrounding themselves with members of the opposite sex: friends, former lovers, and your eventual replacement. (Apaths)
Then, they create triangles that stimulate rivalry and raise their perceived value.
So how do psychopaths maintain such a powerful bond over their targets? One of their favorite methods is through triangulation. Survivors usually equate it with the next target, but that is not always the case. Psychopaths use triangulation on a regular basis to seem in “high-demand”, and to keep you obsessed with them at all times. This can occur with anyone:
1. Your family
2. Their family
3. Your friends
4. Their friends
5. Ex-partners
6. Partners-to-be
7. Complete strangers
Social Media.
Technology makes it so much easier for psychopaths to manipulate through triangulation. It can be as simple as liking a comment from an old ex, while ignoring one from the current prey. They will “accidentally” upload a photo album where they’re embracing the ex they once claimed to hate.
Everything appears to be unintentional—you often attribute it to insensitivity—but make no mistake: it is carefully calculated.
They will post strategically ambiguous statuses, songs, and videos that suggest you might be “losing” them. They will share things that are intentionally meant to lure in new & old targets. For example, an inside joke with their new victim.
Or the love song that they once shared with their ex. This does two things: it leaves you feeling unhinged, anxious, and jealous. But it also makes the competing party feel confident, loved, and special. They are grooming others as they erode your identity—50 birds with one stone.... READ MORE HERE
5 comments:
my ex-husband and my recent BF who I dumped.Thanks reading this has changed my life.
glad to hear that ... you might also benefit from the you tube videos of Sm Vaknin and Melanie Tonia Evans Blog..google them...they really are life changers....xK
here is all the info from Sam Vaknin http://www.retrokimmer.com/2015/08/relief-from-narcissistic-relationships.html
I am in a relationship like this and it is torture. I can't seem to get free of it and that scares me. We need to separate, but don't. The man has a "harem" of women friends with one major top dog lady and uses them like an arsenal against me.
read this book please........save yourself https://www.psychopathfree.com/
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